When was the last time you truly felt your emotions? How often a day do you pause… and truly feel into an emotion you’re experiencing?

The natural life expectancy today is just over 72 years. As we move closer to having lived many decades, we and our loved ones may begin to befriend the thought that life will one day come to an end. Eventually, many follow their heart more than their head, bringing long-held dreams to life, planning another trip, or preparing for their “final journey”. However, I assume you would not likely prepare for the fact, that your child might leave this Earth before you, would you?

Today, in my counselling and trauma support sessions, I integrate what my mother taught me subconsciously. Inspired by the work of Dr. Atlas, I invite my clients to gently look back—one or even two generations—to explore the emotional patterns we inherit. Because often, what we carry is not only our own story. And in bringing awareness to it, we begin to loosen its hold—and create space for something new. Something beautiful. Something meaningful. Something real.

The pain of grief is inevitable; it touches everyone who loses someone they love. Yet, how we respond to that pain is where we have a choice. Pain from grief is inevitable—Suffering is optional! You may not believe this yet, but as time passes, you'll see the truth in those words. The distinction between pain and suffering (how we react to pain) is crucial because it opens the door to healing and relief.