Does your heart feel broken?

In one of my recent sessions I told a client: “I understand that you may feel your heart is broken—however it is still beating and wants to keep you alive." I can relate to the pain of a broken heart and the sense being buried under the weighing blanket of grief. However, please let me gently remind you that the way to ease your heartache is not by battling, denying or silencing it, but by gracefully acknowledging it.

A relationship came to an end or you lost a loved one to death. Those are tragic facts—real and unchangeable. And I am truly sorry for your loss. However, HOW you will carry the grief associated through your life is in your hands. It is equally real and unchangeable that your actions (or inaction) today are shaping your tomorrow. Please, note: Your life has radically shifted, but it did not end. One precious moment lines up to the next and life is waiting for you to be appreciated—and lived and loved once again.

Guiding someone with a broken heart is a delicate honor. Each time a client allows me a glimpse of their tender heart, I am humbled.

A broken heart is also an open heart.

Leonard Cohen once said, “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”

When something cracks, light can enter—just as it did when you first dared to love. You knew back then, as you do now, that love makes you vulnerable. However, it also gives you that warm, cozy feeling and butterflies in your stomach when you choose to leap—fully, wholeheartedly. You knew that this love might not last forever, as nothing does—but you leaned into regardless. And it was so worth it, wasn’t it? Each moment fully lived—love, connection, and life itself—is priceless. And you only experienced that because you were brave enough to open your heart and dive into the unknown.

But as mentioned before: nothing lasts forever and maybe right now you find yourself once more in the unknown—this time a dark void, representing the absence of warmth, coziness and butterflies. And you wonder, how you will ever be able to live, love, and laugh again. How could you ever see the bright side of life once more? The answer is simpler said than done: By allowing more light into your heart again. Courageously, open your heart even wider and let light shine through all its cracks. Picture yourself as a small fragile bird breaking free from its shell, stepping into a world unknown–ready to explore and soar.

After any loss, your world shifts—nothing remains the same. To find your way through this new reality, you will need light and love—preserved in memories, received from others, given to those around you, and last but not least offered gently to yourself.

If you feel engulfed in darkness, wanting to stay there forever, I am here to remind you once again: nothing is forever. Today might be the day to open up to the idea of lovingly connecting with your broken heart and allowing it to heal and love again.

Please remember, when your heart feels broken, reach out. Share your feelings with someone you trust. In the act of sharing your thoughts, feelings and emotions, love works its magic, and the entering light helps you navigate through the unknown.

No matter where you are on your personal journey through heartbreak, I am here for you to listen and offer compassionate guidance on how you can support your heart to heal again.

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